If you answered “no” to any of the above questions, then maybe you should discuss those issues with your boyfriend or girlfriend.Whether it’s where I’m eating, where I’m traveling or, God forbid, something I’m buying, like a lot of people in my generation—those in their 20s and 30s—I feel compelled to do a ton of research to make sure I’m getting every option and then making the best choice., All Rights Reserved—except as noted on attached “Usage and Copyright” page that grants Christian Answers.We should date for fun, friendship, personality development and selection of a mate, not to be popular or for security.Let this become your new motto: It reminds me of an 80’s movie about a dorky guy who wanted to become popular.He paid one of the beautiful cheerleaders to go out with him for a month because he knew that association with her would bring him into the “cool” spotlight.Email your questions to [email protected]] I’m dating a woman and I really like her. She’s an incredible person who teaches me so much and is kind and everything you’d hope for in a mate, but she just doesn’t buy into Jesus. And before you start getting all nervous that I’m about to drop the axe on this sweet thing you’ve got going, know that I’m not about to tell you to break up immediately. Additionally, it is possible for you to follow Jesus and bear fruit throughout your life even if your dating relationship isn’t rooted in Christ. But somewhere, at some point, you’re going to realize that you are building a life on two different foundations.
This includes relationships with boyfriends or girlfriends.
Without that, you spin your wheels alone and eventually get tired of explaining how you feel God’s calling on your life.
You disengage with God—not because you don’t love God, but because you deeply love this woman and are having to make concessions in order to speak a common language.
For her, well, I don’t know what her foundation is—and maybe she doesn’t either.
But if you two are doing this thing together, there’s got to be a common sense of purpose and mission.